tfa_kink | DISCUSSION/OFF-TOPIC POST

I have been randomly dropping in to read the comments at this discussion /off topic post again, and I saw that someone was complaining that the fill/feedback comments have droppped.
I admit, I have stopped actively participating at the kink-meme, not because of wank or any related topics / seriouos discussions such as race or rape culture or similar, but simply because, in the beginning (lets say January /February) I was here more active, for reading the fills, and leaving prompts and trying to comment on fills as much as possible.
now after 4 month of SW TFA fandom, there is simply so much daily updates at ao3, that I am kinda using up all my free time reading there, leaving kudos or feedback. Thats all my time permits during a full normal 9-10 hrs workday.
is there any one else here, having gone through the same transformation? means shifting the focus from the kink meme to ao3?
(sure, being here is fun, but for me, its too much to be able timewise to follow, as in contrast to ao3 where I can handle 10-15 updates per day or so.)
I am not one of those old school LJ'ers of the last decade who are sitting around and mourning the death of LJ activity, nor am I ranting against tumblr. I think, tumblr is a fantastic ressource for fandom art and artists, I have several blogs there even subscribed via RSS feeds, but together they have like over a 500 to 1000 feed entries in a week? not looking at the feed for 1 week, and the update counter went over the top basically. (and I am still not sure, how tumblr works in terms of giving kudos or feedback, so instead of saying to the artists directly, your drawing is gorgeous, I am reblogging , and leave the comment to that art? sort of?) and about 99% of all authors in SWTFA have their tumblr account in the notes, saying, come there and squee with me. or talk to me there. And I am wondering, in this tumblr age, would it be ok to ask the respective artist, can I have your email address, so that I could squee the old fashioned way with you via email? like no pinstagram, instagram, tumbrl, livejournal, ao3 comments, dreamwith or anything? just very very yahoo groups decade like, with email? is it nowaways strange to ask for a fellow fen's email address? is it too intrusive and strange? weird? stalkerish? I admit, I am out of the loop regarding fandom etiquette, and maybe I am overthinking stuff, but in my opinion, it would be more weird to not mulling about it.
For instance, if I read a great story PWP on ao3, and I was all but drooling about that pornish piece, to suddenly being completely thrown off the track, because the author uses "Penis" (which for me is a term out of the sex ed 101 biology book rather than for porn , slash or het) instead of "cock":
is it something worth telling the author? especially in some public space such as the comment space on ao3? I want to be encouraging , and not making authors angry, or worse, insecure about their writing abilities. Especially in an fandom like SW TFA; where every second story seems to start out apologetic for shipping or writing Ray/Kylo fic or Hux/Kylo fic, or whatever. Poe/Kylo. Hux/Poe. Finn/Hux. Mitaka/Finn. I swear I have never seen a fandom where the artists and authors apologize so much for their preferences of pairing (no matter whether its non-con, or romcom).

ok, that went totally overboard , and I simply wanted to explain, why I don't feel like the kink meme is slowing down, even if I am not here much, and therefore cannot be objective.

better go back to ao3, reading and leaving kudos there. Its seems to be the safest course of action.

Paragraph breaks for the love of god

sorry, damn, its anon, how do I even go back and edit?
Again, sorry, I will try to remember next time when I am here, its just I was hitting the post comment button, before I was recalling that I cannot edit.

is it nowaways strange to ask for a fellow fen's email address? is it too intrusive and strange? weird? stalkerish?

If we weren't already on friendly terms with each other? Yes. Especially if I found a rambly wall of text in my inbox and I had never seen your name before. Try getting to know people more gradually through fic comments or asks before asking them to give out contact information.

is it something worth telling the author? especially in some public space such as the comment space on ao3? I want to be encouraging , and not making authors angry, or worse, insecure about their writing abilities.

Many authors welcome polite constructive criticism, many would prefer to avoid it, and there's often no way to know. When in doubt, it doesn't hurt to ask.

However, porn terminology is one of those areas where concrit is least likely to be helpful, because everybody has their own preferences and hated words and you can't please everybody. It's possible a word doesn't work from a character standpoint (a smuggler would probably think something more slangy and crude than "penis", an ancient Jedi master might not be throwing around words like "dick"), and that can be worth pointing out. But "this word is unsexy" isn't going to hold true for everyone, and your preferred words are going to make other people cringe.

thanks a lot, especially regarding the advice on asking for the email address, that sounds very sensible, that it would be okay to ask, if one had contact via comments before!

Which can even be easily achieved!

And I can totally agree on your explanations regarding the different perceptions of words, depending on what kind of character is used. Or rather is using that word. Still, well, I have found a method to avoid telling that the respective authors, and still can enjoy their fics :D
I just copied the story to a word document, and replaced that word on my own , so that while rereading the story, the cringe-factor would just not come up again. Its a win-win situation, this way, I can go back and even compliment the author a second time (because leaving kudos a second time is not possible -sadly- at ao3.)

This place does generate the most unexpected gems though.

Also the plot bunnies offered tickles like none other. I read fics when I am on AO3. I only draw and write when I come here.

+1

AO3 is amazing, but this place helps a lot more getting the creative juices flowing, I also feel like I have more freedoms where you might find yourself writing something you might have never thought of without a prompt or fill here.

I only go to AO3 for SW fic if someone posts an AO3 link in the fills post. I am also far more likely to read a fill for a prompt that's not one I'm following if it's an AO3 post than posted in the meme itself because it's easier to read on my phone.

I check the meme and discussion post during my commute to and from work, leave comments, haven't done too many proper actual fills yet, but when work slows down in the summer some I'll have more writing time. Meanwhile I'm saving links to prompts that interest me and poking at them to see which ones might take off.

If you're mainly here to read, AO3 is the way to go. If you want a fan community experience, ideas for writing stories, hilarious crack, the meme is the place to be. :)

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