That's true. I don't read redemption stories a lot and I completely get that they can be hard to do while keeping everyone true to themselves. But it's just disappointing I guess to see characters I like thrown under the bus as you said, specially when in any other situation their feelings are 100% realistic and rationale. And I don't see in a million years people giving Poe an ultimatum for not forgiving Kylo. Not even Leia would do that.