I wouldn't say I exactly identify with Poe but I have some firm preferences about his characterization that have to do with my own life experiences. I'm 32 and I have a hard time buying it if he's not written as an emotionally mature adult, or on the other side when he thinks he's just SOOO OLD and therefore undesirable. Hell, I'm a woman and we have an early sell-by date in our culture and I might joke about being an Old in fandom but I don't feel actually old and gross at all. The idea of a relationship with someone Finn's age would give me pause because people in their early 20s seem kind of young to me now, not because I feel old. On the other side, I'm sure it's plausible that due to life circumstances he's never been in a serious relationship, but I just can't get into a version of Poe who's not reasonably competent with emotions. He might be surprised at having a sudden strong crush on someone, but I don't like it if he's all "oh noes this has never happened to me before ever."

Oops, that went off topic fast.