It's not about a personal attack on Reylo shippers, it is a discussion which stems from concern. Reylo is exactly like the vast amount of media being marketed at young girls and women that tells them that abusive men are romantic and desirable (e.g. Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey). Media is fictional, yes, but it affects us and how we perceive the world.

So what this "Reylo hating" discussion is trying to achieve is to tell young girls that even though abusive men are constantly being framed as romantic in media and fandom, it is not desirable behavior from a romantic partner. Because people dream of having a relationship like this in real life, and that's concerning.

It's not a personal attack or a "ship war". People aren't trying to say that "anyone who ships this is a sick fuck!!!". No. It is vocal critique of a larger, concerning phenomenon.