Things tend to go awry when Kylo is involved. His parents' marriage, Jedi academy, Snoke's sudden and untimely death just as Kylo shows up for his final lesson... things just go wrong when he's involved. Is it because he's an emotionally unstable wreck of a human being who prioritizes his whims over strategy and good sense? Or is he the galaxy's living bad omen?

After TFA he goes home to his mother, to help her in her campaign. The Resistance immediately loses several key senators' support -- how dare Leia take in a mass murderer just for the sake of selfish love! -- and the FO has a surge of successes in the field. People make assumptions. Kylo can't stand all this distrust and judgment, so he leaves to rejoin his awful boyfriend... and the FO loses ground. Both Generals become very... suspicious.

Hux convinces him to return to Leia -- family is important, Ren! Blood, water, however that goes, bye have a safe trip don't forget to holo -- who in turn tearfully sends him back -- you can't throw away love, son! Follow your heart! Follow it right back to that facist tool!

Kylo is so confused -- they both want what's best for him, clearly, but he doesn't know what -- or who -- that is.

+++ Leia and Hux "selflessly" arguing over who Ren needs more over holo. Kylo is moved, torn by his conflicting love for both.
+ they legitimately care for him but they have a war to run, dammit