Vader's relationship with Luke might have worked if his death had meant they'd never see each other again, but their wanting to interact translated into becoming disillusioned with each other. "Anakin" was a name Vader accepted when he died. He hasn't used it since Luke cut off contact.
When his grandson was admonished not to take after him, Vader watched in cynical silence. But as Ben reached out in the force with the thought "who are you really? What does it mean to be like you?" and Vader responded, their similarities forged an intense sense of kinship that Vader hadn't had since his mother died, and Ben had never had. This further isolated Ben from his immediate family, because now he didn't crave their love and approval, and his closest confidant was a ghost - that everyone else criticized and avoided.
+ for Vader being really in favor of Kylo's having feelings and expressing them, and like “if people judge you, fuck them. Stoicism is that special hell when you don't have any feelings left.” ++ for Vader being unconditionally proud of his grandson. +++ for Vader being one of the few people Kylo can comfortably tease and be teased by. And Rey carving a place for herself by making some of the same observations. ++++ for Vader helping Kylo cope after killing Han. (This was no ethical dilemma for him, because Vader despises Han.)
Vader/Kylo - two of a kind (gen or slash, your call)
Vader's relationship with Luke might have worked if his death had meant they'd never see each other again, but their wanting to interact translated into becoming disillusioned with each other. "Anakin" was a name Vader accepted when he died. He hasn't used it since Luke cut off contact.
When his grandson was admonished not to take after him, Vader watched in cynical silence. But as Ben reached out in the force with the thought "who are you really? What does it mean to be like you?" and Vader responded, their similarities forged an intense sense of kinship that Vader hadn't had since his mother died, and Ben had never had. This further isolated Ben from his immediate family, because now he didn't crave their love and approval, and his closest confidant was a ghost - that everyone else criticized and avoided.
+ for Vader being really in favor of Kylo's having feelings and expressing them, and like “if people judge you, fuck them. Stoicism is that special hell when you don't have any feelings left.”
++ for Vader being unconditionally proud of his grandson.
+++ for Vader being one of the few people Kylo can comfortably tease and be teased by. And Rey carving a place for herself by making some of the same observations.
++++ for Vader helping Kylo cope after killing Han. (This was no ethical dilemma for him, because Vader despises Han.)
Any of this would be love.