So, dialling this all the way back to the OT - Han always shoots first. Leia is a Princess and expects better treatment. So, as their relationship develops, they end up building in really rather a lot of kinks - mildish sub/dom (Han is a bratty bottom if ever there was one) orgasm denial, edging - that kind of thing.

Bringing it forward to the TFA era, I'd like to see General Leia putting her husband right where she wants him with the benefit of decades of experience in what they both like and want.